“I think we as a community need to come back to center. On the one end, we are so unforgiving, judgmental and harsh towards others and ourselves. On the other end, we think any mention of right or wrong is being ‘too judgmental.’ I think again and again we’re missing the point. In an attempt to push our interpretations of rules and regulations, we’re missing priorities like adab (manners) and akhlaq (character). In an attempt to ‘enjoin good and forbid evil’ we’ve developed a squad of ‘haram police’—but forgotten the heart. We do this, although our Prophet (pbuh) has told us that the heart is the master. He said, ‘In the body there is a lump of flesh, if it is set right, the entire body is set right. If it is corrupted, the entire body is corrupted. Verily, it is the heart.’ Let’s come back to center. Let’s come back to the core. Let’s stop talking about whether Valentine’s Day is haram or halal. Let’s look deeper at where our problem lies.